How can you tell if someone is keen on you?
This has been a burning question for all of us at some point in our lives! While there is a lot of debate as to what the signs are that someone likes you, when you do some research on human psychology, you start to realise that there is some consensus on what these signs may be.
Here is a list of signs to look out for:
1) eye contact
If they’re locking eyes with you on a regular basis, then there’s a good chance they’re into you. Unless of course, you have something on your face. 🙂
They may even maintain their gaze with a smile on their face. That’s a pretty obvious sign that they’re into you. If they’re not so direct, and lock eyes with you then quickly look away, then that’s also a good sign that they’re into you. This is especially so if it happens repeatedly, rather than just a once-off-look-at-you kind of thing.
2) Where are their feet pointed?
Psychologists say that this is one of the best nonverbal cues to know if someone likes you or not. This is because when you think about it, we’re not really conscious of what our feet are doing. So where they’re positioned might indicate what our mind is thinking. For example, when someone wants to leave a room, they may point their feet towards the door. And if they like you, they may point their feet towards you.
3) Is their body facing towards you?
if their body is consistently facing towards you, then that may be a good sign that they’re into you. Just like our feet, we subconsciously turn our body towards what we’re interested in and what we’re comfortable with.
So keep an eye out for where their body and feet are positioned in relation to you.
If they’re talking to you without moving their body towards you, then that may not be a good sign.
4) How do they respond to touch?
Women may lightly touch the arm of the person they are talking to. This light touch is not an invitation to a sexual encounter; it merely indicates she likes you.”
This may be the same for a man as well – either putting their arm around her shoulder or even a playful nudge.
Now one technique you can use to see if they do actually like you or not is to lightly touch them on the arm and then see how they respond. If they’re comfortable and move closer to you, that’s a great sign that they like you.
If they quickly pull away and look almost embarrassed when you touch them, then that may be a sign that they’re not that comfortable with you.
Keep in mind that if they pull away, it doesn’t suggest that they don’t like you. It might be that they’re just not a touchy-feely sort of person.
5) Are they copying your body language?
This is a pretty obvious indicator that someone is into you. It’s something we all do
subconsciously when we’re trying to build rapport and impress someone.
We often mirror someone’s hand gestures and speech when we are compatible with
someone, personally or professionally.
6) Do they lean in and tilt their head?
We all lean in when we want to show that we’re engaged.
This is a particularly big sign if you’re in a group of people and they’re leaning in towards you. This is often an obvious sign that they’re interested in you and want to engage with you. On the other hand, if they’re looking around the room, or over your head, then this may indicate a lack of interest and sensitivity.
7) Are they visibly nervous around you?
It goes without saying that we all get nervous or shy around someone that we like. This is because we want to make a good impression, so we start to put pressure on ourselves. Remember that this is probably more relevant in the early stages of attraction when you don’t know each other that well.
So, how can you tell whether someone is visibly nervous? Here is what to look out for:
*They touch their face.
*They blink more frequently.
*They compress their lips.
*They play with their hair (also a sign of preening, mentioned above)
*They contort their hands
*They rub their hands.
*They yawn excessively.
So if they’re showing these signs around you, it might be that they like you and they’re feeling nervous around you. Once they become more comfortable around you, those nerves should start to dissipate.
8) Do their friends already know about you?
If their friends already know about you before you’ve met them, that’s a great sign that they’ve been talking about you. You wouldn’t talk about someone you’re not interested in. It means you’ve become a significant part of their life and they’re at least intrigued by you. And this makes sense. When someone is in love, they can’t stop thinking about that person, so it’s likely they’ll talk about them to their friends.
9) Are they paying attention to you?
Similar to eye contact above, if they’re giving you their undivided attention and they’re relishing the time you two have together, then that’s a great sign that they’re enjoying spending time with you.
Not only will you have their attention, but they’ll also remove barriers between the two of you. Of course, on the other hand, if they’re distracted by their phone or they’re not really present when they’re around you, or they’re creating barriers between the two of you that may not be a good sign – unless of course, they’re shy or nervous if it’s the beginning of your potential romance.
10) Do they get flustered when you’re talking to another potential competitor?
Jealousy can be a sign of attraction. So if they are acting weird, flustered or angry when you’re talking with someone else, that could be a sign of jealousy.
They may glance over multiple times to check out how the conversation is going.
If you see them after, they may ask you about the conversation.
The fact of the matter is if they’re intrigued like this about the conversation you just had, then that may be jealousy because they like you.
Keep in mind that this may also spur them into action and ask you out. But it may also do the opposite, where they think they’re no longer a chance. If that’s the case, you may want to single your intentions sooner rather than later.
While it is fun to analyse with your friends if someone is into you and discuss some of these signs, remember the GOLDEN RULE – if he’s not texting, calling or making an effort to be with you, move on. He’s just not interested!